Definitely not "sweet romance"

Mildly frustrated lately about the difficulty of trying to categorize my writing. It started when I was writing my cover letter for the novella and trying to describe it properly ...

Romantic relationships are generally central to my plots, because I like them and I like the way that centering a story on two individuals with/who develop feelings for each other brings out different aspects of these characters and changes their goals. But this is all really affected by my aceness: I'm just not that interested in sexual attraction and I don't tend to include much of it, not consciously - it just doesn't occur to me when I'm formulating a plot or conceptualizing characters. So I'm not interested in Romance The Genre (which from my perspective is almost entirely based on sexual attraction - the characters only realize they're in love when they've experienced sexual attraction to each other for a long time, there's typically very very little interest in each other's personalities) and I'm definitely not writing it. I think my stuff may come off in theory as "Sweet Romance", ie romance with no sexual content in it, but that bugs me because I think that's a genre/content choice and that's not what I'm doing. I'm writing romantic character arcs/plotlines from an aspec perspective, which I feel like isn't "queer enough" to count for outlets for queer fiction.

It's just annoying, you know?