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chocolatepotUgh, I hate how I always seem to go through the same phases on social media (all of them, all at the same time). I'm sick of them. Nobody else seems to do this.
Phase 1: Tentatively comment when nobody else is saying the thing; make apologies, hedge politely, and keep a dry, academic tone.
Phase 2: Gain confidence as people compliment responses - post more frequently and more casually.
Phase 3: Post very frequently and sometimes quickly; most posts are disputed or corrected and sometimes result in people being pissed off.
Phase 4: Renounce Facebook/Reddit/Tumblr/whatever else for several days. Repeat.
I mean, I know what the underlying issue is. I completely miss out on the innocuous conversations everyone else manages (I'm just very rarely inspired that way!) that adjust your dumb thing:normal thing ratio so it doesn't seem like everything you're saying is met with scorn, and then I way over-internalize the disagreement whether it legitimately is scorn or just a contradiction and then project it onto everyone else. Okay. But it is a terrible cycle and I need to stop doing it.
Phase 1: Tentatively comment when nobody else is saying the thing; make apologies, hedge politely, and keep a dry, academic tone.
Phase 2: Gain confidence as people compliment responses - post more frequently and more casually.
Phase 3: Post very frequently and sometimes quickly; most posts are disputed or corrected and sometimes result in people being pissed off.
Phase 4: Renounce Facebook/Reddit/Tumblr/whatever else for several days. Repeat.
I mean, I know what the underlying issue is. I completely miss out on the innocuous conversations everyone else manages (I'm just very rarely inspired that way!) that adjust your dumb thing:normal thing ratio so it doesn't seem like everything you're saying is met with scorn, and then I way over-internalize the disagreement whether it legitimately is scorn or just a contradiction and then project it onto everyone else. Okay. But it is a terrible cycle and I need to stop doing it.
