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[chocolatepot]

I just put my finger on an odd tic yesterday, when I started communicating with someone from Match(!): when a guy expresses physical admiration of me based on a couple of photos, I am immediately distrustful. And I'm having a hard time distinguishing between this as a good indicator of a sleazy type and this as a manifestation of self-image issues. :/ And I have a tendency to Charlotte Lucas at people in general - to show more friendliness/attraction/interest than I feel - though it's in an attempt to appear normal rather than because I'm anxious to secure a wealthy husband, so I'm all WHAT ARE YOU DOING and so on. Sigh.

Found an interesting bit in a New York travelogue in JDM, 1822! "The fashions are imitations of those of France. The French quadrilles are also preferred to the boring English columns." (It was originally in English but I can't find it on GBooks.) Obvs I'm not going to take that as definitive proof sans hard evidence, but it's nice to have that out there. Though I'm now even more confused about the possibly-Lafayette-ball dress at AIHA - the trimming and complicated sleeves make the provenance almost definite, but the waistline is pretty high for 1822 (1824? I can't remember), especially if New Yorkers were really following French fashions. Odd. Never mind, I looked at the picture again and the version in my memory was slightly different.

IT IS SO HOT. About 90 today, very humid. Impossible to do anything. I don't even want to think about dressing up at Clermont on Friday, UGH. And all the long-sleeved summer fashion plates are giving me hives.

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[lliira]

The only time I've been able to deal with a guy expressing physical admiration of me before he expresses intellectual/personality admiration of me is if I was the one who came on to him first. Otherwise, I'd immediately shut them down. Whether this is because of issues or something else, it worked out pretty well, both throughout my dating history and with ending up with a cool husband eventually.

[chocolatepot]

Yeah, I think it's a good rule. I just always have to second guess myself. Glad to know it works!